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June 11, 2010 @ 12:40am
posted by WildStoneRoses		[quote] “My partner of 2 years is still close to an ex. They chat frequently online and do coffee dates from time to time. I am not a jealous person by nature and we are strictly monogamous. However, if I talk about how their continued friendship bothers me, we end up in a yelling match. I really don’t want to be a green monster, but I do find it a threat.” I'm not a jealous type, because I learned a long time ago if they want to leave there's not a power in the Universe that will make them stay. Having said that, if it gets to the point where an ex starts getting priority over me then perhaps it's time for a chat about just where I fit in the pecking order. As the main romantic interest in someone life, I need to feel I have importance to them and will come before others. Partners/SO first, friends second. Just the way I see it....
February 20, 2010 @ 10:46pm
posted by		[quote] “ [quote] “My partner is also close to her ex. They were together 3 years and her and I have only together 1 year. There "bestfriends", and yet she says she loves me and everything else, which I do believe, but lately it just has been bothering me. Like for now example.... I live with my mom and my partner lives with her family, well I was going to go stay with her tonight because I do not have to work till Friday and she doesn't have class, well I can't stay because of something and so she is pissed about it and making plans with her ex. It hurts it does. But I just don't know what to do. I'm hurting.” It sounds like your partner likes to play head games. Just because somebody loves you does not mean that they are healthy for you. I would find it hard if my partner had ex's as best friends. I have found in our community though that it is a common thing. Out of respect for you your partner should adjust their friendship boundary lines with this ex. If they can't or won't do that then you are probably better off moving on.” Well I do love her very much & she does show it also. After I wrote that message... She asked me to come over after her ex left and I went over there thinking okay I am going to talk to her and let her know how I am feeling, which I did. & I beleive that it helped because we spent past 2 days together just her & I and it was uhhhmazing lol (= I felt like how we used to be... Happy, smiles, and just laughter. So I hope it stays this way and we become closer how we used to be instead of the drift we had going on.
February 19, 2010 @ 4:03pm
posted by		[quote] “My partner is also close to her ex. They were together 3 years and her and I have only together 1 year. There "bestfriends", and yet she says she loves me and everything else, which I do believe, but lately it just has been bothering me. Like for now example.... I live with my mom and my partner lives with her family, well I was going to go stay with her tonight because I do not have to work till Friday and she doesn't have class, well I can't stay because of something and so she is pissed about it and making plans with her ex. It hurts it does. But I just don't know what to do. I'm hurting.” It sounds like your partner likes to play head games. Just because somebody loves you does not mean that they are healthy for you. I would find it hard if my partner had ex's as best friends. I have found in our community though that it is a common thing. Out of respect for you your partner should adjust their friendship boundary lines with this ex. If they can't or won't do that then you are probably better off moving on.
February 17, 2010 @ 6:05pm
posted by		My partner is also close to her ex. They were together 3 years and her and I have only together 1 year. There "bestfriends", and yet she says she loves me and everything else, which I do believe, but lately it just has been bothering me. Like for now example.... I live with my mom and my partner lives with her family, well I was going to go stay with her tonight because I do not have to work till Friday and she doesn't have class, well I can't stay because of something and so she is pissed about it and making plans with her ex. It hurts it does. But I just don't know what to do. I'm hurting.
February 4, 2010 @ 9:07pm
posted by		I think it depends on the two involved. Maybe this is something that needs discussed in detail.
February 4, 2010 @ 9:03am
posted by		That's a hard one & a typical one. We date and have friends out of the same pool.
January 26, 2010 @ 12:34pm
posted by		Well, my advise... If the ex is single trying setting him or her up on dates. or 2 starting being friends with your ex and just wait till your partner gets a little jealous.. and remind them that is how you are feeling.
January 15, 2010 @ 11:27am
posted by ubiquitous		My partner of 2 years is still close to an ex. They chat frequently online and do coffee dates from time to time. I am not a jealous person by nature and we are strictly monogamous. However, if I talk about how their continued friendship bothers me, we end up in a yelling match. I really don’t want to be a green monster, but I do find it a threat.